The Right Kind
It’s amazing how powerful love is; it has a capability of destroying a good friendship.
I see it happen a lot in relationships. I have been a victim to this kind of love too. It happened to me so many years ago. If I’m not mistaken, it happened last 2003 until 2004/2005. I’m not really sure about the year it ended. I just know when it started. As I look back at those years, I’m actually ashamed of myself for placing a barrier to my close friends just to see my “then” guy happy. See, I died that time. I lost my life and I lost my friends. I was only left with my school, my “then” guy, his friends and my family.
However, I’m not here to talk about that “then” guy. I don’t want to tarnish his reputation anymore. My friends can attest how my life had been and I think there’s no sense in bringing back those sad years. The reason why I’m writing this blog is because I just want to share something that I’ve learned, which I think is very obvious but I just failed to notice it back then. I’ve learned that love or perhaps your guy should not hinder you from having the life that you want. You should be free to decide and live the life you choose to have. Because if a person truly loves you, that person will surely understand you and respect you. He/she should understand that he/she is not the only life you have. The person should fully understand that you have friends; that you have a life outside the relationship you both have. And that person should also respect any failed relationships you have had in the past. If he/she cannot respect you as a person and understand that you have a life also, then how else can he/she love and accept you as a person and not as the robot he/she created?
Love should always inspire you. It should always encourage you to do better and most importantly, love should not destroy any other relationship you have with your friends and family. Love should understand, support and respect. I’ve learned this the hard way and I’m ever thankful to the guy who made me realize what love really means, made me fully understand what stupidity is and led me to the right kind of love I have today.
Keep the love burning, mi amigos and amigas!
